How to deal with ‘EGO’?

EGO is not a small thing to drop just like that. It has a different play at different aspects.

Relationship: The word Ego itself says ‘EGo means Everything Goes’. I should not bring ego between me and my relationship. It will create a drift in the relationship. But I am not Buddha to drop my ego just like that. Ego comes in between just like that. What should I do? I need to think how much this person has to me. In case of permanent relationship (like – spouse, parents..) the list of ‘ how much they have done to me’ will be longer than ‘ How much I have done to them’. When I see ‘how much they have done to me’, my heart will be filled with gratitude and when gratitude comes, no possibility for ego. And the relationship grows and shoots up.

Spiritual: I should drop ego to align myself into the spirituality.

Personal / Professional: I should not have ego with world. But with me. With myself, I should I have thin ego. It helps me to ask myself, “How can I perform like this, this is not accepted” and pushes me more to get right. Mediocre performance and being happy about it will destroy some one’s life. He need little ego (only with himself) to get hurt, so that he will push himself and start performing.

With my self: I should have little ego, so that I will help me to grow in my profession and pushes me to perform more.
In the relationship:I should not have ego. How do I drop it ? I need to count my blessings and I need to see how much the other person has done to me. This process will fill my heart with gratitude and helps me to remove the ego.