The Power of Monomaniacal Obsession

If you really want to see the kind of success that others can only dream of then there actually is a surefire way to achieve it. The evidence of this methodology abounds but most people don’t recognize its inherent power because it seems unreasonable and way too hard.
The method is to narrow your focus as much as you can so that you are only shooting for one major goal.
And one means one – not three or four or even two.

How to Enjoy Life...

1. Appreciate Beauty. Each day we come across beauty in a number of shapes and forms. It’s a shame, then, that many people have become so accustomed to this beauty that it largely goes unappreciated. I suggest looking again at the people, plants, gadgets, and buildings (to name but a few examples) around you and taking a moment to appreciate what makes them so special.

2. Connect With Nature. Nature is an amazing healer for the stresses and strains of modern life. Eating lunch in the park, attending to a vegetable garden in your backyard, or watching the sunset are just a few simple ideas for how you can enjoy the outdoors on a daily basis.

3. Laugh. E. E. Cummings once said “the most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” How very true. Never be too busy to laugh, or too serious to smile. Instead, surround yourself with fun people and don’t get caught up in your own sense of importance.

4. Have Simple Pleasures. A good cup of coffee when I first wake. Time spent playing with my 8 month old son. Cooking a nice meal in the evening. These may not seem terribly exciting, but they are some of the simple pleasures I enjoy in life. If you slow down for just a moment and take the time to appreciate these ordinary events, life becomes instantly more enjoyable.

5. Connect With People. In so many ways, it is our relationships with people that give us the most happiness in life. Perhaps, then, the best way to enjoy your work more is not to get a raise or a promotion, but rather to build rewarding relationships with your co-workers.

6. Learn. There is a strong link between learning and happiness. Given this, there is no excuse not to be stimulating your brain and learning something new each day. My favorite way to find time for learning is to make the most of the commute to and from work. Audiobooks and podcasts are great for this purpose.

7. Rethink Your Mornings and Evenings. Are the mornings a mad rush for you to get out the door? Do you switch off the TV at night and go straight to bed? I have personally experienced the profound benefits of establishing a routine in the morning and evening. For example, in the morning you may choose to wake an hour earlier and spend the time working on yourself, whether it be reading, writing or exercising. In the evening, consider spending some time just before bed reviewing your day or in meditation.

8. Celebrate Your Successes. During a normal day we are sure to have some minor successes. Perhaps you have successfully dealt with a difficult customer, made a sale, or received a nice compliment for your work. These aren’t events worth throwing a party for, but why not take a moment to celebrate your success? Share the experience with someone else, reward yourself with a nice lunch, or just give yourself a mental pat on the back.

Good Quotes......

Anger is a condition in which the tongue works faster than the mind.

You can't change the past,but you can ruin the presentby worrying over the future.

Love...and you shall be loved.

God always gives His best to thosewho leave the choice with Him.

All people smile in the same language.

Everyone needs to be loved...especially when they do not deserve it.

The real measure of a man's wealthis what he has invested in eternity.

Laughter is God's sunshine.

Everyone has beauty but not everyone sees it

It's important for parents to live the same things they teach.

Thank God for what you have,TRUST GOD for what you need.

If you fill your heart with regrets of yesterday and the worries of tomorrow,you have no today to be thankful for.

Man looks at outward appearance but the Lord looks within.

The choice you make today will usually affect tomorrow.

Take time to laugh, for it is the music of the soul.

Patience is the ability to idle your motorwhen you feel like stripping your gears.

Love is strengthened by working through conflicts together.

Harsh words break no bonesbut they do break hearts.

To get out of a difficulty,one usually must go through it.

We take for granted the things that we should be giving thanks for.

Love is the only thing that can be divided without being diminished.

Happiness is enhanced by others but does not depend upon others.

For every minute you are angry with someone,you lose 60 seconds of happinessthat you can never get back.

Do what you can, for who you can,with what you have, and where you are.

I,ve Learned....

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you.All you can do is be someone who can be loved.The rest is up to them.

I've learned that no matter how much I care,some people just don't care back.

I've learned that it takes years to build up trustand only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned that it's not what you have in your lifebut who you have in your life that counts.

I've learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes.After that, you'd better know something.

I've learned that you shouldn't compare your self to the best others can do,but to the best you can do.

I've learned that it's not what happens to people,It's what they do about it.

I've learned that no matter how thin you slide it,there are always two sides.

I've learned that you should always have loved ones with loving words.It may be the last time you'll see them.

I've learned that you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I've learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done, When it needs to be done,regardless of the consequences.

I've learned that there are people who love you dearly,but just don't know how to show it.

I've learned that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry,but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I've learned that true friendship continues to grow even over the longest distance.Same goes for true love.

I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I've learned that no matter how good a friend is,they're going to hurt you every once in a whileand you must forgive them for that.

I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others.Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken,the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are,but we are responsible for who we become.

I've learned that just because two people argue,it doesn't mean they don't love each other.And just because they don't argue,it doesn't mean they do.

I've learned that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.

I've learned that two people can look at the exact same thingand see something totally different.

I've learned that no matter the consequences,those who are honest with themselves go farther in life.

I've learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hoursby people who don't even know you.

I've learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you,you will find the strength to help.

I've learned that writing, as well as talking,can ease emotional pains.

I've learned that the people you care most about in lifeare taken from you too soon.

I've learned that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being niceand not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe.

I've learned to love and be loved.

I've learned...

-Anonymous..

Nine Rules To Work / Live By

As a developer one of the greatest tips I have received was to share and be explicit about what my values are. Values that govern my work life, what motivates me, how I work etc. The tip was provided in the context of accelerating the on-boarding process for new team members but I have found it to be useful beyond that.
After a bit of self reflection I had a small list that in a burst of creativity and imagination was titled “The Rules”. They reflect my values and perhaps more interestingly are sourced from life lessons, some from good experiences and some that were not quite as delightful as one would have preferred. But as they say we are but a collection of our life experiences.

Summary:
Rule #1: Always have clear lines of ownership. Know exactly what you are supposed to do and ensure others know that exactly.
Rule #2: Always have your act together. You can’t know everything, but what you can know try to know it well.
Rule #3: Under promise, over deliver. You will always come out on top.
Rule #4: Never make yourself indispensable. If you do you’ll stay where you are because you are, well, indispensable.
Rule #5: Credibility is king. Period.
Rule #6: Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference. You can teach anyone anything, you can never teach right attitude.
Rule #7: If you find yourself in a hole the first thing to do is stop digging. Old cowboy saying.
Rule #8: “Skate to where the puck is going, not to where it is (or where it has been).” The Great One, Wayne Gretzky.
Rule #9: At the end of the day always remember that it’s just a job.

**From Management Guru...

Quotes....

Dedicate time to GOD :

He's the price of satisfaction .

Dedicate time to think:

It's the fountain of power.

Dedicate time to enjoy:

it's the secret of youth.

Dedicate time to love and be loved:

it's the source of joy and satisfaction.

Dedicate time to laugh:

it mitigates the stress

Rain drop falling from the sky has nothing in mind except to hit the earth. No matter how tough the drop is, it still reaches its destiny! Be positive always!!!!!

Devise the simplest possible solution that solves the problems..

Case 1

When NASA began the launch of astronauts into space, they found out that the pens wouldn't work at zero gravity (ink won't flow down to the writing surface). To solve this problem, it took them one decade and $12 million. They developed a pen that worked at zero gravity, upside down, underwater, in practically any surface including crystal and in a temperature range from below freezing to over 300 degrees C. And what did the Russians do...?? They used a pencil.

Case 2

One of the most memorable case studies on Japanese management was the case of the empty soapbox, which happened in one of Japan's biggest cosmetics companies. The company received a complaint that a consumer had bought a soapbox that was empty. Immediately the authorities isolated the problem to the assembly! line, which transported all the packaged boxes of soap to the delivery department. For some reason, one soapbox went through the assembly line empty. Management asked its engineers to solve the problem. Post-haste, the engineers worked hard to devise an X-ray machine with high-resolution monitors manned by two people to watch all the soapboxes that passed through the line to make sure they were not empty. No doubt, they worked hard and they worked fast but they spent a whoopee amount to do so. But when a rank-and-file employee in a small company was posed with the same problem, he did not get into complications of X-rays, etc., but instead came out with another solution. He bought a strong industrial electric fan and pointed it at the assembly line. He switched the fan on, and as each soapbox passed the fan, it simply blew the empty boxes out of the line.

Moral : Always look for simple solutions.
Devise the simplest possible solution that solves the problems .

Quotes.....

Giving own Power & Support to those who are in Front..
ADDing value & still being Egoless..
We need to learn this from Zero.
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The great man shows his greatnessby the way he treats the little man.
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Act as though it were impossible to fail.
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We many not achieve everything what we dream,but we will not achieve anything unless we dream.
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If we focus on results, we will never change.If we focus on change, we will get results.
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Mistake increases Ur experience and experience decreases Ur mistakes.U learn from Ur mistakes; then others will learn from Ur success.
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The KEY to HAPPINESS is not that U NEVER getANGRY,FRUSTRATED,IRRITATED orDEPRESSED.It’s How FAST U GET OUT of All that !**********************************************************************
There is only one difference between Dream and Aim.Dream requires effortless sleep.Aim requires sleepless effort.
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Never worry about the delay of your success as compared to othersbecause construction of a pyramid always takes more time than an ordinary building.
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An arrow can be sent forward only by dragging it back.So, when the life is dragging U back with difficulties, it means thatits going to 2 launch U 2 Victory.
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Duty makes us do things wellbut love makes us do them beautifully.
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If you desire to Blossom like a Rose in the Garden.You have to learn the art of Adjusting with Thorns.
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Ten secrets about working in IT

1. The pay in IT is good compared to many other professions, but since they pay you well, they often think they own you.

2. It will be your fault when users make silly errors.

3. You will go from villain to hero and back again multiple times within any given day.

4. Certifications won't always help you become a better technologist, but they can help you land a better job or a pay raise.

5. Your non-technical co-workers will use you as personal tech support for their home PCs.

6. Vendors and consultants will take all the credit when things work well, and blame you when things go wrong.

7. You'll spend far more time babysitting old technologies than implementing new ones.

8. Veteran IT professionals are often the biggest roadblock to implementing new technologies.

9. Some IT professionals deploy technologies that do more to consolidate their own power than help the business.

10. IT pros frequently use jargon to confuse non-technical business managers and hide the fact that they screwed up.

I have learned...

1. I have learned -
That sometimes the people
you expect to kick you
when you are down
will be the ones to
help you get back up.

2. I have learned -
That just because someone
does not love you the way
you want them to
does not mean
they don't love you
with all they have.

3. I have learned -
That maturity has more to
do with the experiences you have
had and what you have learned
from them and less to do with
how many birthdays you have
celebrated.

4. I have learned -
That no matter how good a friend is,
He or she is going to hurt you every
once in a while and you must
forgive him or her for that.

5. I have learned -
That it isn't always enough
to be forgiven by others.
You have to learn to forgive
yourself.

6. I have learned -
That no matter how badly
your heart is broken the
world doesn't stop for
your grief.

7. I have learned -
That background and circumstances
May have influenced who we are,
but we are responsible for who
we become.

Important Words....

The six most important words in the English language are: "I admit I made a mistake."

The five most important words in the English language are: "You did a good job."

The four most important words in the English language are: "What is your opinion?"

The three most important words in the English language are: "If you please."

The two most important words in the English language are: "Thank you."

The one most important word in the English language is: "We."

The least important word in the English language is: "I."

The two least important words in the English language are: "I can't!"

The three least important words in the English language are: "You Screwed Up!"

The Law of Success.....

-A Definite Chief Aim
-Self Confidence
-The Habit of Saving
-Initiative and Leadership
-Imagination
-Enthusiasm
-Self-Control
-Habit of Doing more Than Paid For
-Pleasing Personality
-Accurate Thought
-Concentration
-Co-operation
-Failure
-Tolerance

NO MAN HAS A CHANCE TO ENJOY PERMANENT SUCCESS UNTIL HE BEGINS TO LOOK IN A MIRROR FOR THE REAL CAUSE OF ALL HIS MISTAKES.
- Napoleon Hill.

Improve your aim, improve your life!

One of the greatest discoveries a man makes , to one of his great surprise,is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn't do. To explain this let me take you through a small story.

There was a king with a small army, the captain of the army was not confident to win a war with another country.so, the king went for a toss by starting if we get a head ,God is with us,we will win and if we get the other side we will lose the battle.they won the toss, warriors were motivated and fought with the hope that god was with them.at last they won the war.

The captian told the king "only bcoz God is with us ! victory came. The king laughed and showed the coin which had the same on both side and said,no with the hope of having God with us,we fought with strong will power! which paves the way for victory.the kings action ,was nothing but motivation and extension of positive thinking within the soldeirs, if one possess strong will power, he can win anything,anywhere and anytime.

Sachin Tendulkar,Sania Mirza,Kalpana Chawla,Leander Paes,Joshna Chinappa,Narein Kartikeyan....etc, who did the country proud by thier achievements in respective fields only due to their will power and positive thinking.
We all have dreams which are different in every aspect.Our dream may indicate the great possibilities that are in store for us in the future years to come. A dream may precede all big works and achievements.But even for converting dreams into reality, the role of positive thinking is very important.

You, all need to show the world is the results of your positive thinking, not the blue print of your dream.the world expects results. do not talk to them about your labour pain,instead show them the little baby. everything depends upon the human mind, which is capable of creating positive and negative thinking.it is our duty to train our mind to have full of positive thinking. the route cause of success, which not only avoids failure and brings the name and fame to live even after bidding farewell to this world. Always remember nothing great was ever achieved with out enthusiasm.

It's simple to train your brain ; ask yourself how was your day ? if your answer is "great" then you have started training your brain to think positive.

14 Laws of Charming Personality!!

Charm is an charismatic thing which strikes the sight & leaves it impression in heart. that's why first impression is the last impression. Use the following laws to make your personality more & more charming. As follows,
Law : 1 - Control Your Moods :- Make a habit of breaking bad moods. always trying to be nice with peoples & being nice to the people only when you want i.e. as per your mood makes the difference, So it is better to control your moods.
Law : 2 - Offer understanding, Empathy & help.
Law : 3 - Don't desire to be center of attraction, Create your own influence.
Law : 4 - Avoid Fault finding, Spend time to analyze yourself.
Law : 5 -Give Encouragement & Appreciation.
Law : 6 - Avoid desiring to be considered as superior.
Law : 7 - Show Interest.
Law : 8 - Be Co-operative, helpful & Generous.
Law : 9 - Be pleasent & look cheerful.
Law :10 - Be enthusiastic & energetic.
Law :11 - Spread Genuine love & being loved.
Law :12 - Look pleased to see peoples, While speaking be proactive.
Law :13 - Be Nice to the people.
Law :14 - Avoid talking back of the peoples.
Just 14 laws is not the standard set, it is the basic primer for personality.You can create your own laws, you will be able to create your own 14000 laws as you keep on analyzing yourself, learning yourself, analyzing your real self. The more we study our-self, we will come to know more about our-self.
There is no excellent book which will help you to be charming, but, yes, there is an one perfect book which will help you & guide you to be CHARMING and that is your own MIND.

Skills that Enhance Emotional Intelligence

Many different factors contribute to an individual's emotional intelligence, including a person's ability to deal with anger and anxiety and the degree to which a person displays empathy. In addition, researchers Thomas Hatch and Howard Gardner have identified four social skills that contribute to and enhance emotional intelligence and help combat social ineptitudes. These four social skills are described below.
1. An ability to organize groups
A person with this skill possesses the ability to initiate and coordinate the efforts of various people to reach toward common goals. Individuals who can organize groups demonstrate leadership skills, have an ability to relate to people from various backgrounds, and understand what motivates people. In addition, they are capable of offering direction comfortably.
2. An ability to negotiate solutions
Individuals who are able to negotiate have a unique talent for mediating. Not only can these individuals resolve conflicts when they occur, but in many cases, they are capable of keeping the lid on trouble when it's brewing. People who are skilled at negotiation focus on solutions and actions, rather than on problems and roadblocks.
3. An ability to make personal connections
Some people seem to naturally sense and relate to other people's feelings. These people, who are skilled in making personal connections, recognize and respond in appropriate ways to the feelings and concerns of others. They make great team players and business partners, and get along well with virtually everyone because they are so quick to read the emotional climate. This skill helps individuals succeed as sales people, managers, and teachers.
4. An ability to perform social analyses
Social analysis is the skill of knowing and understanding how other people are feeling. This can lead to easy intimacy or, at the very least, the ability to build rapport quickly.
To succeed in both professional and social environments, you need a number of social skills, including the four skills described above. To make a better social impression, self-assess your own social skills and determine your strengths and weaknesses. With this knowledge, you can build on your strengths, overcome your weaknesses, and succeed in every environment.

Ability..........

Twenty-six small letters and twenty-six capital letters - just fifty-two in all and their combinations. Why suffer from poor handwriting all your life? In a matter of days, we can train our handwriting, knock this weakness off and enjoy the benefits of it for the rest of our lives,” said a handwriting trainer to a group of twelve-year-olds.

How often we meet people who keep cursing their fate for having studied in the regional language as the medium of instruction? With a year's formal training, they can learn the language they want to and knock that weakness off. How often people suffer the inconvenience of the driver not turning up for work!Immobile, despite the fact that an automobile is staring at them from their own garage. With a month's formal training, they can learn driving and knock a weakness off. Fear of public speaking is rated next only to the fear of death. Yet, through formal training, one can master public speaking in a matter of weeks.

When a weakness, a limitation, can be knocked off, why suffer it and let it incapacitate us for the rest of our life? How marvellous - invest some time in training, knock a weakness off and enjoy its benefits for the rest of your life! Life is actually simpler than what we think it is.

Formal, systematic training not only enables us to overcome our weaknesses and limitations, but also helps us to become better at what we are already good at.

Babies will eventually learn to walk, and then run. However, if they have to become athletes, they have to undergo formal, systematic training. Scribbling becomes writing under formal, systematic training.Talking becomes communication under formal, systematic training. Exercise under formal, systematic training becomes a wellness program. If you want to play the game of chess, learn it from anybody; but if you want to become a champion, then you'll need systematic coaching from a trained coach.

Nothing like our grandmother's remedies, yet don't we rush her to a doctor when she is sick? There is no substitute for formal, systematic training. Often, the difference between good, better and the best lies in the quality of training.

Whether it is painting, music, dance or for that matter any other art form that you want to be good at, no matter what your age is, undergo formal training. Yoga, meditation or sports, if it is not meant to be a mere pastime, undergo formal initiation with a trained coach. Take a break from the CEO's chair and take up formal professional education once again - go back to school and then come back to the seat. See the difference.

Ability when subjected to systematic training becomes proficiency. There is no other way to be the best.Nothing like growing in the right hands.

"Thinking of a Lion while it is a Cat"

Last week we were informed that our Business Unit Head is going to visit our office and everyone in the project is going to meet him and anyone can raise the concerns to him.

So myself with my friends were discussing in the pantry about the BU head and how about the guy? Whether our concerns will be solved or its waste of our time? Will it be effective to putforth the questions in front of him? etc etc...At the same time we all know getting an opportunity to meet BU head is like seeing rain once in a while in chennai....

On that evening, I played in my mind the entire sequence - how I would open the dialogue ,how i would stand my ground, how to react for his questions, whether my questions are valid and start keep on thinking about it, because I have seen lot of managers(they term themselves as management gurus of the company) and act like they are too worthy for the company and shows all our problem will be solved by positive speech.Afterthat, there won't be any remedy or reply for our issues.Yeap,true...Thatswhy they are called as managers because they manage the problems and for solution we want to find some one else.But it's our responsibility to put forward our points even if it not reached there ears.

As expected, the meeting day also came and i got an opportunity to met him personally as well.He is very friendly and gave time to narrate my points clearly even he was in a busy schedule.He was happy that i took the issues to his notice and he was satisfied with my discussion.

But i am not satisfied because the questions i have played in my mind was not at all asked by him.I couldn't digest how poorly I had handled the situation and the enormous stupidity I had put myself through. I walked out looking sheepish.

How often we go through unwanted emotional stress and turmoil before a confrontation, only to be faced with something of an anticlimax. The obviously unnecessary thought process makes us feel terrible - before, during and after. Yeah, sometimes things don't work out so easily and you have to fight your way. But why go in spoiling for a fight? Why anticipate a negative response? Why enter a discussion thinking your demand will be turned down? Why expend your time and energy in preparing to face a lion when it's only a cat? Why take a negative approach? Why worry about something before it happens? We would save a lot of unwanted stress if we simply decide to hold our response until the situation presents itself.

No matter what the situation, you have a case if you are true. Contingency planning doesn't apply here. When you aren't sure whether it's a cat or a lion you are about to face, preparation proves pointless. Anticipation makes a mountain out of a molehill. Face it when you come to it. Let the wisdom of the English idiom prevail -

cross that bridge when you come to it

.

From my Brain....

13 key lessons that make up who I am

o It is all in the Mind, if you think you can, you can
o Your power to receive is more important than someone’s power to give
o To get, first you must give
o Connect with people – finally, leadership is all about people
o Life is a constant negotiation – never feel surprised with the need for it
o The overachiever is always on a slippery slope – one must always carry the ski-poles of humility as you negotiate your success
o One must build respect the marginal person in life – the small folks are more important than the big ones
o Passion is what passion does – life is not about the armchair revolutionary
o In your profession and in life, resilience is more important than brilliance
o The key to your happiness is not money
o One must learn to look beyond oneself, my pain is as large as my inability to see the pain on the face of the guy next to me
o We must learn to forgive ourselves and forgive others as we grow up
o Self-doubt is a good thing – all over-achievers will go through it sometime or the other

Expectation.......

She has always admired her father for his discipline. Now she is married. She expects her husband to be disciplined, which she believes is an essential virtue. Oh, on discipline he never makes the grade. She is dissatisfied with him and he is frustrated with her.

“My mother has always been honest and transparent. The problem with you is that you never tell me the whole stuff about your life,” the husband complains to his wife. “Look at your brother's handwriting - it is a piece of art, and look at yours,” the mother nags the daughter. “In my earlier organisation we never used to operate like this,” cribs the new General Manager. “In America we don't have these issues,” cries the NRI about India.

Expectation isn't a problem; benchmarking expectation is.

She gives her father a '10 out of 10' on discipline and is not satisfied with her husband who is tottering at 4 or 5. See, for him 5 is his 100% score - for his nature, temperament, upbringing, and conditioning, he will never make beyond 5 on discipline. This is him and this will be him. There must be some other quality on which the husband must be a perfect 10 and her father won't make the necessary grade. The wife may never be as transparent as the mother, but she may be very selfless in financially aiding the family. The daughter may outperform the son in singing. You believed in better growth prospects here than the previous organisation, and that's why you are here.After all, India doesn't have some of the issues that the world has.

No one is inferior to others on all counts and no one is superior to the rest on all measures. We all have our pluses and we all have our minuses. No one is zero-defect. No one is all-defect. Stop focussing on isolated qualities. Start relating to the whole being.

However, there is a twist in the tale. When I am dissatisfied with others it makes me unhappy, but when I am dissatisfied with myself it helps me grow. When I benchmark others with my expectations, it leaves me dissatisfied with others and thus affects my happiness. When I benchmark myself with my expectations, the dissatisfaction created propels my growth and development. When I demand a '10 out of 10' from myself on excellence, integrity, purposefulness, character, competence, etc… it shows me where I stand and where I need to go. The gap becomes the scope of my transformation.

On all matters, rate the world on '5' and rate yourself on '10'. Not that the world is any less capable or you are super-human but because… Without happiness there is no life. Without dissatisfaction there is no growth. To live and grow let's be Happily Dissatisfied. Proclaim, “I am living. I am growing.”

I am happy with the way you love me. For my part, I will find more and more ways to love you.

Gossip............

The most uncivilised activity of the civilised world is gossiping. Even the most educated and the socalled elite indulge in this uncivilised activity. Gossip is ruthless entertainment. In gossip, the tongue and the intelligence are let loose. In more than one way, gossiping is vulgar indulgence.

In fact, people come together to form associations and clubs, and gossiping is the lifeline for their fellowship. The most dominant preoccupation of these groups is to discuss about those who aren't present. Never trust a gossiper. After you leave, the one who was gossiping with you will gossip about you with others. Every gossiper will gossip about other gossipers, and this is the noble truth.

Hypocrites are those who sweet-talk on the face and bad-mouth behind your back. We shamelessly distort the images of people through gossip, without the slightest care about how much it might affect their lives. Millions of lives will be saved from suicide if gossipers only choose to be of moral support to the emotionally hurt, rather than making news out of them.

Gossip is judgement passed out of half knowledge. Every gossiper eventually drinks his own poison.He becomes highly other people conscious. His mind is curious all the time - “What are others saying about me?” Judge not and ye shall not be judged. The contrary is also true. Judge and ye too will be judged. Gossipers no more live life through their own spectacles, but instead live to satisfy the spectacles of others.

When this thirst and hunger for knowledge is canalised towards realising the higher realities of life, growth happens. We make a blunder by feeding this very thirst and hunger for knowledge with gossip. Aristotle, Freud, JK and us - the quest to know is the same. If they had been gossipers, they would have been among us. If we can stop gossiping, we can be among them.”

What does a lion have to do among the cats? The next time the gang around you begins to gossip, just walk away. Refuse to speak or hear about those who are not present, especially when what is discussed is judgemental, negative and
insensitive. Let our rapture not come at the cost of rupturing the
hearts of other people.

Great minds discuss ideas.
Average minds discuss events.
Small minds discuss people.